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Originally Posted by Calista+12
Regular T has seen me through bad times before. He's had an awful year himself with illness (which triggers me) There have been many cancelations from both our sides. Now he forgets quite a bit that we've talked about , yet will not admit it. He misses phone calls from me (the emergency kind) which he never did before. He and I feel like we're on seperate continents. We've always healed any rupture before but the way I've been feeling, I doubt it's worth trying. I plan on terminating with him also. There is no point to all this and I hate the fact that I allow myself to depend on anyone. (it's always a let down or a set up)
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((((((((((((Calista)))))))))))))) It must be so hard to watch someone you really could depend on turn into someone who isn't so dependable anymore.
It sounds like his medical issues are what triggered the change in him? (if I am reading that right?). Do you think they are affecting his thinking, and making him forget things, miss phone calls, etc? I'm just wondering, because if that's the case, it sounds like it's not a problem with not caring, not being WILLING to be there, pushing you away, etc... I don't know if that's a comfort to you, because it still means "different T"... But I guess for ME, it would help me to know that it wasn't anything *I* did, or that his feelings about me had changed, or anything like that.
It sounds like you've had a safe, good relationship with this T, and that you KNOW what you want and need in a T...someone consistent, someone available between appointments, someone who is willing to see their part in ruptures and work through them. That is really good information. If you do terminate, there's so much there that will help you find a new T who is just right for you. Don't give up
As for meds, my regular doctor prescribes my meds. It's worked out fine, really...but luckily, my med situation isn't too complicated at this point. If you know what you need and just need someone to write the prescription, I bet a GP could do that for you.
Sounds like a tough day. Good luck, and let us know how it goes, okay?