I really think hubby is the one you need to hash this out with and he did play with fire you both kinda did....you know it could be HIM having these feelings for someone else ...But man to have someone you care so much about come in say how he feels and go its a kick in the gut ((JMO))

I may be bad but I would be tempted to go solo with the dude..he may be milquetoast and not cake when he is one on one for any length