You like to be in control, to have control. So do I. I guess I have a controlling personality too.....I like things in my environment, in my life, in my situation, in my head/heart to be under control, in order, ordered/controlled......the reality is that it doesn't always work that way. You can control some things, but not all things.....you can control yourself. You can't really control other people, their actions/reactions/responses.
So I suppose for me, I am learning both that I can have control in a good way in my therapy, but also that there are times when I need to let go of wanting to control (because it is like manipulation - at least wanting to control/manipulate the emotional responses of others to me, have a safe, positive reaction and not disapproval or rejection.....I try to control my emotions/reactions/actions/words so they don't cause a negative, rejecting reaction in others....so for me, the control/manipulation thing is a self-protective mechanism, not meaning I am a domineering or deceitful or malicious sort of person. T and I have talked about this a lot!).
Letting go of control is like trusting that the other person's reaction/response will be OK, that things will still be OK even if it isn't the reaction/response I want.....I can still be in control of my response to that.....
I feel the need for control, to be controlled in myself, because growing up my environment was so uncontrolled, emotionally and otherwise, I think. People I lived with were so out of control.... Also because my emotional interior has always been so stormy, feeling so disordered, I have tried to keep in order, control what I can.....I have tried to appear controlled, be controlled, because I really feel so uncontrolled. Maybe some of this is similar for you, with your situation, externally and internally?
Anyway, I think an assignment like that, to explore your personality, will be a huge one......good luck!