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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
Sakura,
I'm sorry to hear about how complicated your relationship has been for so long. I can understand why you're frustrated, as he doesn't seem to be very stable. Is he getting treatment? Seeing a therapist? Medications?
It is always within your right to walk away from any relationship. You don't even have to have a reason; if you aren't happy that's reason enough.
I'm thinking if you're still not ready to let go of the relationship, and you two are close enough distance wise, perhaps you could go to therapy together. I'm not honestly sure what they would do, but it could be helpful. You could also look into support groups for partners of those with serious mental illnesses (Check NAMI?).
My last note is about the missed phone call. Where I work, the hallway where our lockers are doesn't get any reception. The rest of the building is fine, but I leave my purse in my locker with my phone in it. If someone calls my phone while it's there and doesn't leave a message, I will never be notified of a miss call. My phone doesn't recognize it. I don't know if that's something that could have happened to you, but it is possible.
Take care!
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Hi RomanSunburn, he has already done a treatment program successfully and his doc has weened him off meds back in March. Prior to that I was also complaining here for months that my bf was about to go of his meds trying to seek advice. I know disasters can happen with people go off meds, I've read too many horror stories.
He has no current therapist though I don't think he will want one either. We are not close enough to go together but I wish I could. I don't know how he would feel about having a mediator to intervene in our issues, though I would want one. I will be seeking assistance soon from a former professor whom I've know for 10 years, she is amazing and she works to help others on personal development and emotional healing issues. She has been through a lot and enjoys helping others with her work.
Finally, about the cell phone. Your right the call could have been dropped if he called me, anything is possible, however I have good reception with dropped calls once in a blue moon. I just think he's probably lying to cover this ***. Because a similar thing happened New Years. And he's not even a major liar which puzzles me even more. I don't know what to think, but I know he's having some kind of an episode because he thought I didn't want to talk to him anymore which is not true. When in fact he claims he just didn't get my messages. It just bugs me. I'm tired of being patient with him. I've done so much for him and I get little in return and I feel so angry and cheated.
And this cycle of bs between him and I keep going around and around. and it never ends. And about Nami I don't even want to bother because I want to get out of the relationship as soon as the semester ends for me. I need to be able to grieve the end of the relationship with out having school work to think about. because the relationship has already caused me to do poorly this year in school.
Anyway thank you for the suggestions, I just need to gather up the courage to finally dump him.