no your not selfish. sometimes it is inconvenient for other people for you to grieve. well, too damn bad for them. You loved your grandma and your always going to miss her. That does not mean you will always feel this bad though. But that is certainly not selfish.
My husband was security for me. I miss him so much for a milliion thngs, and I feel sad about what he went through, but also I miss how he used to get me through panic attacks and ocd attacks and helped me function normally. I dont think its selfish. Its some of the things i missed about him. Some of the stuff that made me love him.
I dont mean to make this about me. I just dont thinkthats selfish. Youhad soemone wonderful in your life that loved you. Missing that is not selfish. at all. Quite the opposite. If you turned around and didnt miss a beat, said who gives a crap, maybe that would be selfish....