Missing grandma

I slept worse than usual last night (have been having trouble sleeping for three months). I found myself thinking about how my grandma used to tell me that she loved me on the phone. I don't hardly have anyone left who says that to me. I didn't get to hear that kind of statement much as a kid. So I have a greater need to hear words like that and feel the love of another human. I cried before going to work this morning and felt rather sad at work because of this.
I just wanted to express my feelings to another human being. A part of me thinks this sounds kind of selfish to me.

You're not being selfish at all! You are grieving and this takes time.

Hang in there.

I agree with Lexicon,, Not at all selfish.. you need to grieve as long as you NEED to. Its only human to want and miss that kind of love. Keep your head up and SMILE.. hope you feel better soon,,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Greiving seems to take alot out of you and where you out, even when you think you've gotten a little better.

I don't understand what you mean by being selfish. Do you mean you miss her because she made you feel good when she said she loved you on the phone?

That's no selfish at all........that's a memory you cherish. It's good to gold on to those memories. So you don't forget.

Everytime I'd hear an Aerosmith song, I'd get sad thinking of my Grandma (they were her favorite band), now everytine I hear Aerosmith I think about how she used to sing along, and dance like a goof in the car.

That's a memory I cherish.......it's good way to keep a hold onto that person.

I'm sorry for your sadness. I know how you feel. I hope you feel better.
Desirae

no your not selfish. sometimes it is inconvenient for other people for you to grieve. well, too damn bad for them. You loved your grandma and your always going to miss her. That does not mean you will always feel this bad though. But that is certainly not selfish.
My husband was security for me. I miss him so much for a milliion thngs, and I feel sad about what he went through, but also I miss how he used to get me through panic attacks and ocd attacks and helped me function normally. I dont think its selfish. Its some of the things i missed about him. Some of the stuff that made me love him.
I dont mean to make this about me. I just dont thinkthats selfish. Youhad soemone wonderful in your life that loved you. Missing that is not selfish. at all. Quite the opposite. If you turned around and didnt miss a beat, said who gives a crap, maybe that would be selfish....