Carla
That's what all abusive men say.
They are trying to make you feel bad about yourself so you won't leave them.
it's because he himself is actually very weak and a coward.
That's why he is beating on a woman instead of someone his own size and strength.
Have you contacted a domestic violence counselor that can help you?
Here's a link to some information.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/dome...prevention.htm