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I am wondering whether you and T have ever thought about asking yr DH to come see him with you some day - not on your regular therapy day, an extra day - do you suppose it would help him if he could ask questions and get answers from someone who won't be upset by them? Yr T is not going to break your confidentiality, but maybe he can make yr DH understand that you are not keeping secrets from him. this must be so hard for you, I am sorry.