Rani08,
Wow there is a lot of good advice here for you. So many things that you probably have not thought about. And, I agree that perhaps you should consider seeing a therapist as well. Now, I can hear you saying that it was always her that had issues and you were the problem solver but therin lies the problem.

Wouldn't it be nice if you didn't have to solve her issues, if you could just spend time loving each other in a healthier way? Often we do not see the forest thru the trees and a therapist can help us with that.

Dont be self critical, or feel that you are losing control. Be glad that she is seeking another opinion besides pushing all her issues on you. It shows growth and courage on her part, maybe she wants to stop demanding so much from you because she loves you.

Open Eyes