My partner was sexually abused as a child and now has severe anxiety in sexual situations. To be honest, sex isn't important enough for me to be willing to make them relive those painful memories. What i want is a way to help them cope and become more comfortable. They feel extremely guilty for their anxiety even though I've assured them many times that their happiness and comfort is far more important to me than getting my rocks off and have joked that "god gave me two hands for a reason". Has anyone delt with feelings like this, and how do you cope?