i know its important to have that validation and i'm sorry you feel as though youre not getting it. maybe you need to sit down with the people you feel are aware of what happened and talk about it. if not having that confirmation is making it difficult for you to live your life and feel right about things, then dont stop searching. i've learned to live with the fact that i cant get my mother to say sorry, to acknowledge her role in what happened to me, but i would never tell anyone else to just live with that. you have to do whats right for you and what you know you can live with.
wishing you hugs and luck with your efforts.