Anika, as a mom myself... but not knowing the full extent of your relationship with your mom...

I know for myself that I would just love to ignore and not believe that my children are struggling with anything. In my case, this isn't the truth, but I just so want to believe...

As moms, we give so much of ourselves to try as best as we can to give our children a better life. And when we discover that our children are struggling, it brings great pain. We question if we really were good parents.

I am learning that my adult children have to make choices that are best for themselves. There will always be a part of me that wants to fight what they tell me - but deep, deep down, I know they have to do what is right for them.

Don't know if this helps you, but hoping it provides some perspective.