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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
Please ask yourself why you would have sex with someone who claimed to have had sex with 100s of people. I write this to you with the utmost concern for your well-being.
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Add to this, why would you want to continue being around someone you consistently LIES to you & you know that what they are saying can't possibly be the truth.
I am sure there is some background reason why he is the way he is.....but I can guarantee, those types don't want to change their leopard stripes.
Why waste your time or energy on someone like that? No amount of love or caring will ever change someone who is that messed up because they usually NEVER get to the point of wanting to change & even if they were to say that they did....you couldn't believe them.
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There's a man at work that I spent over a year avoiding. There was something inside of me that said "BEWARE"... "DO NOT TOUCH"...
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After your DBT class you should have believed your gut feelings & stuck with your avoiding him from the beginning. My DBT group taught me to be completely aware of the things around me & analyze situations before getting involved in them, not to blindly give people a chance. I am sure if you totally used your DBT skills you will know exactly how to handle the situation you are in & then maybe look back & see where you could have used your DBT skills earlier in the relationship you ended up in. It usually takes at least 2 times through DBT to understand & be able to put the skills better into practice....maybe it would be a good idea to retake your DBT training.