~i found i can benefit from this article. often when criticized i go on the defensive. there are some healthier ways/skills to hear the other person's viewpoint. now if i apply these steps...~
When it comes to criticism, it is surely mored blessed to give than to receive. No one enjoys being on the receiving end of a critical comment and it's harder still when the criticism isn't fair.
When the other person's criticisms feel flatly irrational, or just plain wearing, we listen defensively. We automatically listen for the inaccuracies, exaggerations and distortions, so that we can refute errors, make our case, and remind the other party of their wrongdoings.
You can decide to listen differently...
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...fair-criticism
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