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Old Aug 03, 2011, 10:36 PM
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Originally Posted by HelloClarice View Post
it sounds stupid, but the book what color is your parachute? has helped me to identify patterns in my interests and identify my strengths. i know it's more of a job search tool than anything else but it made me feel good somehow to see that i was better at more things that i thought. part of my problem with finding direction is that as soon as i decide i want to do something i convince myself that i'm an idiot loser who sucks at life and could never be good at whatever i'm considering.
haha, that "not being an idiot loser who sucks" is the damn thing that gets me every time. lol.

so i took 6 months off work (after getting laid off) to figure out what i really wanted to do. I settled on some sort of research, but still can't figure out if i would actually like it. So i got offered a job doing data work at a place that does macro research, i was all GREAT! I'll find out! then i got offered another job the same day, and due to not being able to trust myself, i asked my friends, they said i should take the other job b/c it had a better title. So i took the job I didn't want. Which is how i ended up here, after realizing what a stupid mistake i made (at 38 mind you, it's not like 'oh chin' up, opportunities come really applies) i felt so much frustration on YET AGAIN losing out b/c of my dysfunction (i also found myself under so much pressure just b/c i could not tell both jobs i needed a day to decide, and that comes from not being allowed to speak or ask for anything, my entire developmental life) that i wanted to take a gun and blow my head off. So now i'm STILL trying, after 10 years of working on my issues, to still have something i want. And failing. once again. So i'm giving it YET another shot and trying to improve myself. If i can't do it, i will definitely give up.