Thank you sky for your reply...please understand i am not angry with the fact he has met someone else or that she is reaping any reward...from what my kids tell me he isnt completely sober..has one now and then...what i most angry about is the effect booze has had on my life,my children and the end of my marriage..every meeting,every counsler,said he had to do it on his own...i chose to walk away..the sad part is at one time we were happy but it never lasted long enough...booze stole the love i had for him...if anything i hope he stays sober..i hope she can help him to stay that way...id like my kids to see normal and their father healthy......