not sure where to post

where do i begin...i guess i could start with my estranged husband..well soon to be x husband..we were together for 12 yrs.. he was sober 8 months of the 12...finally the booze won...i couldnt take anymore..we have been split for almost 3 yrs...he promised he would never drink again...i never believed him....so away i stayed..everyone told me he had to do it on his own..i couldnt save him...well here i am now awaiting my divorce...and now he is met someone else..and is sober.....who would have ever imagined...i am angry...so much of my life has been affected,destroyed my booze...if this is what i so thought was the right thing to do then why does it feel so wrong.....and why did i let booze win and steal everything away????? sorry for the rant...is this just my codependant kicking in....so confused

GRRRRRRRRR (((sherry)))) Sounds to me like you are angry over giving all the time and effort and someone else reaping the benefits? I don't blame you. I do wish for you though, to continue to move on. Take care of you.

You are asking some good questions there.

Thank you sky for your reply...please understand i am not angry with the fact he has met someone else or that she is reaping any reward...from what my kids tell me he isnt completely sober..has one now and then...what i most angry about is the effect booze has had on my life,my children and the end of my marriage..every meeting,every counsler,said he had to do it on his own...i chose to walk away..the sad part is at one time we were happy but it never lasted long enough...booze stole the love i had for him...if anything i hope he stays sober..i hope she can help him to stay that way...id like my kids to see normal and their father healthy......