I agree its important to take preventative measures before you lose control (which you can lose during a severe manic and/or depressed episode). I know what things set me off and I can usually kind of tell when things are not right with my moods. However I believe that if the people around you (that love you) know that you have this problem, they know what may make things worse or things that trigger you and they have agreed to try to help you but then do things around you that you've already asked them not to then its hard to really feel responsible. My husband and I have gone through this every time I go way down. He'll tell me he'll try to do whatever will help and that he understands. But when I become extremely depressed he gets mad at me because sometimes I disrupt his plans, then if I become manic he starts calling me crazy and tells me to just stop freaking out and things like that, which I've already explained only make me feel worse. Then when I get worse and eventually either hurt myself or break something he takes no responsibility and says its all my fault and I'm doing it on purpose for attention.. etc. And I do apologize if I ever try to do something to him or break something of his, but when he takes no responsibility its hard to just not feel loved by him. He has a drinking problem so I have stopped drinking to help him.. but I feel like he won't help me with this. He almost seems to like making things worse..