Thank you all so much for your post. And I will never take anything as a lecture, not in regards to my sobriety. I welcome any and ALL experience strength and hope, so please never hold back from sharing your opinions. If I get mad, I'll do a 4th step. =)

I feel an update is in order....Richard, you said to follow your heart, and man is that hard to do! It's so hard to tell if I'm aligning my will with God's or trying to match His will to mine. I turn it over constantly, I did a TON of writing, I've talked with my sponser and other alcoholics and I've talked to the guy - at lenth. I'm still definetly questioning question questioning. They have decided that breaking up is inevitable - they're not married btw. But how long will it be until the split happens? I don't know....he doesn't want to drop her flat on her face and I respect that. Am I keeping reservations in my head and heart? Yes. I was trying to fight the doubt, but I must be feeling it for a reason. This is all very new, and if the situation were different, if he weren't coming out of a relationship, I would approach it the same way, with apprehension. To save myself from getting too emotionally involved too quickly, like I did in the past. What I'm learning through this whole experience is to do things differently then I used to, which I surely have. We're not pushing anything. We're continueing to get to know each other and continueing to feel out the situation. Richard, I hadn't thought about Bama and her situation....that got me thinking. But I'm not making this guy my Higher Power. My sobriety is much more important than him, and his is more important than mine, that much I know for certain. I hear what you're saying though and I will continue to approach with caution. I'm taking it a day at time, just like I do my sobriety. I'm trying to keep expectations at bay, ie: not thinking that I can predict our future together as being long standing or forever, because I can't predict that about anything. I'm making sure to stay open to what "could" happen, so that I'm prepared if it does. I feel like we're approaching an unhealthy situation in a healthy manner, if that makes any sense at all! But there have been a ton of doubts when I'm not with him. When he's in the same room as me, I feel a lot better and we haven't been able to figure out why. Through reading your posts and writing this reply, I'm realizing that for me, I'm keeping healthy reservations to protect myself from heartbreak and relapse. So thank you guys! You helped me realize something here. I'll be sure to keep you posted. =)