Porcupine2 - That sounds really sticky, icky uncomfortable. So, like when he stops to see her, he drops by to see you? I would for sure not take any invitation to do anything at all with them. That let's him wedge in further. Maybe you could act real boring when he visits. But with the language barrier, that distance is already there probably. I reserve the right to just not answer my doorbell at times, which was very hard for me to do but got easier.

I always try to discourage unwanted interest very "gently," but I'm learning to be less gentle. In the end, that may be what it takes. Awful hard for me, but being on the puppet strings of others has got me so down.