Well, if you read all the stuff on rupture and repair, then I guess a rupture would be anything that disrupts the therapeutic relationship.

If it is not attended to, it can disrupt the entire therapeutic process (in certain kinds of therapy modalities).

It is incumbent on the therapist to admit culpability and ensure the client's underlying fears or problems with the therapist are heard and adequately addressed within reason and within the therapeutic "frame".

Now, I don't know your therapist, or your relationship to him. I read your last thread, however, and I suspect that your therapist is not mad at you at all. Perhaps a little exacerbated because you chose not to tell him about something disruptive that was happening to you.

Maybe he was just wondering why you didn't tell him. Sometimes the things that *aren't* said are very important - not because of the actual issue or words at hand, but they are indicative of the trust and comfort with the relationship between you and your therapist.

Why *didn't* you tell him about what was going on. I mean, clearly you don't have to do anything that you don't want, or feel ready to do, but I can certainly see how that would be quite perplexing to a therapist.

If it were me, I would definitely go to therapy today. Tell him you would rather be at the dentist and that you miss goofy therapist.

It'll be okay, but it'll take a lot of courage. I gotta say though, you owe it to yourself and your desire to change to do what needs to be done.