It sounds to me like you dont' need these people. real friends are there during a crisis. my best gal had cancer. she was only 13. her boyfriend was otherwise occupied with job problems and his living situation. add your girlfriend's cancer to that and he had alot on his plate. she eventually broke it off because she said he wasn't there when she needed him the most. I on the other hand kept talking to her no matter what was going on in my life. she needed someone to hold her proverbial hand (this is all on the internet, BTW) we still keep in contact. my point? if they aren't there when you need them the most then you dont' need them at all. you can do much better. your family should be a solid base of support but I understand these days that most people won't give a damn.