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Originally Posted by AlyRocheleau
My Fiancee has Aspergers and at times gets angry at very simple or little things. Even if the anger isn't directed at me it makes me very fearful and uncomfortable because I was formerly abused. I'm not scared of my fiancee and he has never become physically violent to myself or anyone else that I know of. How do I let him know that his temper makes me afraid of him without setting him off?  |
I was very angry for decades, long before I knew about AS. But I was never violent.
I had a big explosion during group therapy (which is a very good place to have it, apparently), and everyone told me afterwards that they were concerned that violence was imminent. That brought home to me just how scary I was and how much I hurt the people around me. I decided I never wanted to be that angry again. And I never have.
I can still go too far: I snapped at my boss earlier this year. But I can recognise now when my anger is excessive.
I don't know if this has anything to do with AS or not.