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Originally Posted by 3rdTimesTheCharm
Rainbow, I wonder if it would be helpful to you to have others talk about examples of reframing from their own lives. It might help you see how this work gets done. I also think the article is a good example of this (thanks, Perna).
I could share a story or two, I'm sure others could too, but don't want to put it on you unless you feel you'd like that.
Anne
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Well, I'll share a story. The whole 'shifting angle of view' helps. I want to be a 'giver' instead of a 'taker'. Now, I know we all need to receive. It's part of the human contract. And it's o.k. to be a 'taker'. But when it becomes the overwhelming focus of one's life, then it harms that life.
What I'm trying (and I'm not sure I can be successful) in regards to T's vacation is to 'give' it to her instead of bemoaning that my desires are not being fulfilled. But, in a way they are. If I have a desire to give, then by giving my T the vacation, I am fulfilling a desire. And as T pointed out to me when I 'gave' her that gift, I was practicing compassion for another human being.
So, an idea might be how can you 'give' to your T?