ya know... someone once said to me, "If it's a joke, it's a thought." So even if he was joking... he was thinkin' it.

What you did was a violation of your bf's privacy no doubt there, but apparently he's also not capable of being forthright and upfront about how he feels with you... so in effect you're both sorta lying to each other. Doesn't sound like much of a relationship to me. Smile and move on to someone you can talk with. Life's short - we all seem to be professional time wasters - this is coming from the president of time wasters are us. Why waste more time - two divorces instead of one?????? hhhhmmm?