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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
She also told me (during my birthday dinner) that she has a history of suicide attempts and I am her only friend. That made me extremely uncomfortable. It feels like she is guilting me into being her friend-- and it feels as though she thinks I might change my mind and start to see her as more than a friend (if she gives me gifts, does favors for me, etc). I don't want these things, though. And, the more time I spend with her, the more I feel like she is "creepy" and "stalker-ish." On the surface, everything she does seems nice-- gifts, e-mails, get well cards, etc. However, they're too much and they make me uncomfortable. I think I need to cut ties with her in order to protect myself, but I'm worried that if I do cut ties, she's going to have a nervous breakdown and possibly attempt suicide. I don't know what to do.
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If a friend has suicidal feelings, that is not your fault. If someone is really determined to die, no one can stop them.
If you are her only friend, that is not your fault either. You haven't stopped her having other friends, have you?
In your position, I would want to say: "I'm sorry you are feeling so bad, and I do care about you. But I can't be your only friend, let alone your lover. I suggest you get some professional help."
I don't know if I would be able to say that, but that's the direction I would be leaning.