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Originally Posted by Joanna03279
Hi
I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice for me, I'm about to leave my partner of four years, due to years of drug use, violence, and general ill treatment. I'm finally strong enough mentally and physically, and I'm finally financially capable.
I've been scared and weak before, but now I'm ready.
The problem is, I come from a family background which is extremely religious, judgmental, and very against single motherhood, so much so, that 've spent many years in a horrible situation and suffered depression and anxiety trying to keep my relationship problems secret. After all this time with my partner, I physically can't take anymore and I've planned and saved to leave with my child. We'll have everything we need, except when I make this move, my family will be so embarrassed by what I've done that I will lose their love and support and possibly be shunned by them.
I will be completely alone.
I'm worried I will not have the mental strength to make it on my own with no support.
I'm 32, my baby is 12months.
I really want to do this but I feel like I'm walking into the dark alone with a child.
This might not seem like a big deal, but I'm worried I will suffer depression while I'm on my own and not have anyone, but I cannot stay with my partner, he is awful, and I cannot please my family, their culture doesn't allow for independent thinking, everything they want for me is not good for me and my child.
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Hi,
It sounds like you have a plan and the courage to see it through. I had to make the decision at 33 to raise my baby with no family support, or the father's, but I did manage to survive. Now she's and very successful, although we have some issues.
Depression doesn't have to be part of it. Hopefully you can line up support - a T, good medical care, and child care. Being a single mother shaped my character more than anything, although there were tough times, I had excellent health and spiritual support later. Your family might change their minds; mine did and later helped me buy a house. As long as your baby is protected you will be alright. All the best to you!