Many women can't vaginally orgasm. What matters is enjoying the act of intimacy no matter if it is with yourself or your partner. I had problems with orgasming when I first started being with my partner, part of it was I was learning to become comfortable with my sexuality and with sharing that part of myself with someone else. I can reach vaginal orgasm most of the time now with my partner, but it took awhile and learning to be completely relaxed during intercourse.

Masturbation is a great way to learn about yourself and what you enjoy, so when you are ready to be sexual with a partner you feel comfortable with yourself and expressing your needs with your partner.

Don't let porn be an example of actual sex, porn is to let people indulge in fantasies, just like a book does. It isn't meant to be an actual account of how sex works it's just as fake as a movie

Don't be so hard on yourself Happycheeks, there isn't one set norm for sexuality, only the ones we set for ourselves, part of the enjoyment is learning what works for yourself and your partner.