Embarrassing question about something....

I can't vaginally orgasm. I tried but I can't. I won't be able to. I am such a alien. But I can orgasm by using my c***. I'm odd and I'm the odd one out.

You're not alone. I don't think I've ever orgasmed...I'm not even sure what it feels like. 8\

Time, ladies, patience. Experience. Baseball pitchers don't start their careers throwing shut-out games, and sexual encounters seldom begin with fireworks. Believe it or not, good sex is something that builds with time & experience--at least for me. A partner who tries things with you so it gets better & better for both of you.

The good stuff is worth working on & it's worth waiting till the time & partner's right to work on it in pairs. There's stuff you can learn to do alone. But don't give up on anything now. You've got lots to experience & enjoy ahead. I'm waaaayyy older than you--I know these things <grin>.

I've had pretty much the same experience... I don't think it matters. What matters is if you enjoy it, if the intimacy you have with the other (assuming there is another) is good, and the fact that you do actually climax. Everybody has different sexual experiences, and I understand that a lot of women feel the same way that we do. It's a male myth that all or most women climax internally... apparently for the majority of us most of the time that's not actually true. You wouldn't feel bad about not climaxing in your breast or knee cap... it doesn't matter where it happens. You get satisfaction in the way your body responds. There's no reason why it should respond one way or the other. Neither is better or worse... don't get hung up about "shoulds," just be glad that it does happen. You're not an alien.

I agree with you. But the ladies in P*rn can orgasm. :S

That's called acting, m'dear. Takes & retakes, camera angles, sound tracks, makeup, tricks of the trade. Please don't equate sex with p*on. Like fudge & tar. Camera work can fool more than the eye.

Well said

Don't feel bad - at all. Only roughly 10% of women can achieve vaginal orgasm. I can't either.

10%..... That's not a lot. I guess women can achieve orgasms through their C***t. I try not to feel bad.

C*** orgasms are more intense, too! I don't care how it happens, just that it does

I know what it's like to have low s*x drive. I took citalopram and it made me not want to do it. I mean some girls can have orgasms and in their vgina and some squirt which is odd. I understand what you mean.

I agree with you.

Many women can't vaginally orgasm. What matters is enjoying the act of intimacy no matter if it is with yourself or your partner. I had problems with orgasming when I first started being with my partner, part of it was I was learning to become comfortable with my sexuality and with sharing that part of myself with someone else. I can reach vaginal orgasm most of the time now with my partner, but it took awhile and learning to be completely relaxed during intercourse.

Masturbation is a great way to learn about yourself and what you enjoy, so when you are ready to be sexual with a partner you feel comfortable with yourself and expressing your needs with your partner.

Don't let porn be an example of actual sex, porn is to let people indulge in fantasies, just like a book does. It isn't meant to be an actual account of how sex works it's just as fake as a movie

Don't be so hard on yourself Happycheeks, there isn't one set norm for sexuality, only the ones we set for ourselves, part of the enjoyment is learning what works for yourself and your partner.

Thank you. I agree with what you said. Porn is just fake. I'm jealous that you can vaginally orgasm. I probably won't ever because I'm not human.

Happycheeks, you are human. And what does it matter if you ever vaginally orgasm or not? All that matters is enjoying the act of intimacy, that is were the real pleasure comes from. An orgasm is no fun if you aren't enjoying the act of intimacy, with yourself or with a partner. Sex is just as much about the emotional and mental as the physical.

I guess 70-90% of other women aren't human either then.

haha Thank goodness I'm not alone

To be quite honest, I don't even think there's such a thing as a pure vaginal orgasm,, there must be some clitoral stimulation happening at one point, otherwise I think it's a complete lie!

The first sex partner I ever had never gave me an orgasm. I remember him asking me once if I came and my reply was "i think so".. HAHAHA when I actually had my first orgasm I realized how silly that response was. I nearly kicked my boyfriend in the head when i had my first orgasm with a partner. My very very first orgasm though was by myself. I was fed up with not being able to orgasm, so I found a diagram of the vagina, read a few tips on masturbation and had some private time to myself to practice. The orgasm wasn't nearly as intense as the one i had with my partner a few months later.

Anyway, I'm not sure what a vaginal orgasm is. I can't climax without clitoral stimulation. And usually that involves me helping my partner out down there. I cant always expect him to do all the work. The only time ive ever had orgasms without helping myself out was when I was in positions where I was still getting clitoral stimulation from sources other than my hand.

Thanks for your reply. I do agree with you. When I was younger I thought there was no such thing as a vaginal orgasm. I have orgasmed through clitoral sensation too. There is a thing called a G spot for the woman which leads to vaginal orgasms. I think I found it but I just feel like I need the toliet. Apparently, it's normal to feel like that. It's probably crap. I guess people say this to make women feel like ****.

I think women can experience different types of orgasms. I don't necessarily think that a vaginal orgasm doesn't exist, but apparently there is good evidence that the G-spot orgasms occur because you are stimulating your clitoris internally. If you look at a diagram of the structure of the clitoris it's a bit more extensive than what you can see on the outside.
Not sure if that helps, but try not to put pressure on yourself

Sexual topics trigger me

I was dating a guy for a year and he was always forcing me into stuff and I never enjoyed sex. In fact I hated it, untill I started dating my bf of now, I never thought that sex can actualy be nice and enjoyable. That's when I had my very first orgasm. I found that the only way for me to get it, is to get on top of him, that way I can move around until I find the spot. But I also don't always get it, its all about foreplay for me.