In my previous therapy, I called myself crazy quite a few times. My T finally asked what I was looking for in doing so. She seemed to think I WANTED her to think I was crazy. I tried to explain that I grew up being called crazy, and being told I would get locked up in a "crazy bin" if I told people what I "thought" was happening in my family. So, I really was looking for reassurance at some point that I wasn't crazy.
I've pretty much stopped calling myself crazy, but still call myself "needy." And it's the same deal. I was forever labeled as "needy" for wanting any kind of affection or acceptance from my family. I really do think of myself as needy. My T keeps trying to move me away from that word, and we talk about it quite a bit
Definitely talk to your T about it. Get the reassurance you need and the support to start affirming yourself instead of cutting yourself down.
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