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Originally Posted by snowgoose
Pedophilia is not new. We have all grown up with them in our midst. Are there more today then in the 60's or 70's etc or do we just hear about more incidents?
I ask this because this generation of kids seem to be victimized without being victims. When I was growing up we were expected to be friendly with people. It was the polite thing to do. Yes, avoid strangers but not to the point of being dumb founded by my 'friendly hello' even when they are standing right next to mom or dad in the grocery store. Babies will respond because they haven't yet been programmed with fear.
It is really sad actually. I think we scar our kids by our parinoias. Kids don't play outside like we did growing up in the 60's. They don't do sleep overs like we did growing up. I live in a neigbourhood with lots of families and children but you wouldn't know it. They are 'safely' locked in the house. In my day we were expected to play outside afterschool until dinner call. The mom's all had a different sounding 'dinner' whistle.
I am an older parent so I think this change is more obvious to me than the younger parents who were probably also raised to fear strangers. It has become a norm. How sad is that!
We go way overboard in my opinion. Kids don't get enough exercise anymore. Obesity is out of control. Sedentary gaming is out of control. Bullying is out of control. Is there a connection here? I think there are.
Yes, parents need to be attentive. But that is nothing new either.
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Maybe some parents coddle their kids too much but I don't. I have 2 girls almost 10 and 14. I know pedophilia's not new and most of the cases are people who are known to them. I have always let my kids play outside and they're an ideal weight. I prepared my kids but I didn't terrify them - I reminded them there's stranger danger but the more common kind is from the people you know. My preparing them was always age appropriate. I taught them to respect adults but not blindly and if they ever felt uncomfortable with a person...that respect should be questioned. I empowered my girls rather than scaring them. My oldest is a black belt.
Since family abuse is so rampant, I did explain to them your relatives or mom/dads friends are sometimes capable of doing inappropriate things. Decades ago if parents taught their kids to tell and be prepared to react, there wouldn't be so many victims. Most victims freeze because they've been so perfectly groomed that they so admire the pedophile and are shocked when they strike. I know that feeling of being so shocked/confused that you're stunned -luckily at the age of 13 I was able to fend off my BIL.
Sometimes the media/court system does re victimize but in this case I think these victims are ready for justice. This was already dragged through previous questioning but his buds lied and covered up for him. If anything that victimized them more. Fortunately these now adult men never gave up and I give them credit. I will now jump down from my
