I appreciate your perspective and it is apparent that you are an attentive, involved and caring mother. But.... I find this to be one of those over the top warnings for children. At least for me. It is my job to screen the people who might spend private time with my child. I don't want my child suspecting everyone. I want them to learn how to listen to their own instincts.

When I was a child an alcoholic uncle was always gropping us girls. People thought it harmless, even funny but I didn't. I learned to keep my distance and stick close to mom when he was around. I never had to worry about being left alone with my uncle because my mother knew without me saying anything that he could not be trusted. She may have thought him harmless too but she was intuitive about my discomfort and without question stepped up to make sure I stayed safe.

I expect the question of what to say and how to say it etc is unique to every family. An approach can work for one family and backfire for another. The important thing is for parents to be attentive and to trust their own instincts about people who spend time with their children.

Ya but at what cost. I doubt they had any idea how this thing was going to explode with them smack in the middle of it. Very sad re-victimization. This story is going to go on for years while the judicial process does its thing. The constant resurfacing of the pain that those years will cause is unforgiveable to me. Is it any wonder kids stay quiet. Or probably wish they did once the **** hit the fan.

There has to be a better way that truly does protect and support and usher healing for the victims. Justice is more than a legal issue.