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Originally Posted by treehouse
My guess is that this mirrors your day to day life...that it's more comfortable to just run away/isolate/shut down/etc than to ask for something that you need and deserve. I know that was SO true for me when I came to therapy. I had made it through over 30 years of life without having to ask for anything, and I didn't want to start now!
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Yep, it sure does. I think T may have been trying to explain this to me last week, but I was stuck on the fact that he threw out a "one-sided relationship" comment at a time when I was already feeling like I wanted no relationship with him at all. So I got a little caught up in that comment instead. I was wondering what I'd done to have him break out the transference talk, but he was trying to explain that getting angry and retreating was a pattern that I likely followed in and outside of therapy.
And it
IS totally a pattern of mine. So odd how I can admit and understand that, yet I still feel like throwing a fit and running as far away from him as I possibly can. Such opposing forces. Time to go hit the gym for sure. Sheesh.
