Good luck with your new T, SAWE.

Did you mean whether we TOLD our new T what we wanted to be different, or what we told ourselves? I of course told my T that my goal in this therapy was to end my pattern!!! Uh, well I AM working on it more than I did in any other therapy. And I did TELL her from Day 1 so she KNEW.

I didn't want to waste any time in my sessions so I told myself I would be totally honest and not hem and haw about stuff. I'm doing that better than I expected, but my T helps a lot because of the way she is!

Your goals are good, but please don't be hard on yourself if you fall back into behaving the same way you did with your former T. I'd suggest telling your new T about these goals so she can help you meet them.

Just curious. Did you have closure with your other T? It seems like you were seeing her and now, suddenly you aren't, or did you just not post about it?