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Old Jan 12, 2012, 12:19 PM
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From a recent post >> Even starting with a new T after having spent a period of time working with someone else is a bit unnerving, because they all work somewhat differently

Very timely for me, as I am in just that spot right now.

At first meeting, new T has already said that therapy with her is going to be a bit different from what I have been used to

and when we entered her room & she said, sit anywhere, I said up front, it may not always be the same place, but for today...... here. (not closest to the door, but with a good view of the clock so it may have been her chair indeed, lol)

This time, I will try hard to get my questions out "in the moment" instead of asking myself 1000 times between this session and the next...

This time, I will work harder at giving T the benefit of the doubt before going ballistic… hopefully an easy goal as I don’t expect a lot of transference the second time out…

And this time, I will try to be much more regular with journaling, and will try using the journal to experience & process what happened in session, & not just to record.

When you started with a new T - or as you are about to start with a new one – would you comment on what you want to be different, this time?

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Old Jan 12, 2012, 12:40 PM
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Good luck with your new T, SAWE.

Did you mean whether we TOLD our new T what we wanted to be different, or what we told ourselves? I of course told my T that my goal in this therapy was to end my pattern!!! Uh, well I AM working on it more than I did in any other therapy. And I did TELL her from Day 1 so she KNEW.

I didn't want to waste any time in my sessions so I told myself I would be totally honest and not hem and haw about stuff. I'm doing that better than I expected, but my T helps a lot because of the way she is!

Your goals are good, but please don't be hard on yourself if you fall back into behaving the same way you did with your former T. I'd suggest telling your new T about these goals so she can help you meet them.

Just curious. Did you have closure with your other T? It seems like you were seeing her and now, suddenly you aren't, or did you just not post about it?
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Old Jan 12, 2012, 12:49 PM
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Your goals are good, but please don't be hard on yourself
oh yeah. That too.

I knew I had forgotten to list something, but that is one of them. thanks Rainbow!
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Old Jan 12, 2012, 10:02 PM
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those sound like really good goals!

when it look back on it, i think my goal was to trust the process... in the beginning that was the hardest part.
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