I have come to the conclusion that T's are there for us to learn how to deal with our feelings. To get to understand the triggers to overwhelming feelings, to learn how to sit with our feelings and not want to escape them.

I think it is therefore very useful for you to discuss these feelings with your T, although I know it can be really really hard to do - maybe there is just a small thing you can say to begin with. As T is a professional he shouldn't be returning to practice unless he is fit to do so, so I also wouldn't worry about trying to protect him.

Let us know how it goes - Soup