Thanks Lee, much appreciated. Funnily, she always prided herself on being the "loyal, faithful truthful, whiter than white, I dont even look at other men", type of woman.

She actually kept asking me to marry her, but the keeping me at arms length and rarely seeing her towards the end, put stop to me even thinking aboiut commitment.

It is still hard some days, i cant lie, but my strength is gaining momentum a little, I can feel it. I was so angry at her for cheating and leaving me without telling me, what a coward...but 3 months later, i'm coming round to actually forgiving her and wishing her happiness....I'm not forgiving her just yet, but am getting to that milestone slowly I think.

So, I would also say, if you have built up anger and hatred, don't suppress it, let it out, because eventually it will subside...given time.