CantExplain - yeah, and because I'm a meek pleaser I'd say - "No, of course not, dear T, you don't have to do everything I want. I heart you!" Honestly though, the fact that most people continue to do exactly as they wish without even the slightest nod to my preferences for their behavior is such a frickin' thorn in my side! WHY DON'T THEY JUST OBEY ME! LOL

I do think it's odd that some Ts seem to feel that the therapy session is its own planet, where the norms of social interaction go right out the window - under the guise of therapeutic technique. I object to rudeness in session, even if the therapist is employing it as a strategy to draw this or that response out of me, or to compel some sort of breakthrough. I don't want to be experimented on!

There's a better way to guide a client toward enlightenment.

For instance, I would ideally love for my T to tell me, "Hey kitten, you're perfect, you're beautiful, you were harmed, you did no wrong. Everything that has ever happened to you has been the fault of asshats and jerks and your narcissistic parents and sadistic teachers and all the other damaged, shameless bullies of the world, and you - you're an ANGEL! It's EVERYONE ELSE THAT SUCKS! To hell with other people! It's GETBACK time, honey! And you got my blessing!"

That's what I'd love a T to say to me. But I know I'll never hear it