Oh Heidu... Some days you can't win for losing. Is this the first time something like this has come up? When I first discovered online support sites I spent an enormous amount of time on them, all hours of the day and night. And eventually it did cause some problems between my wife and I. I tried to explain how important it was to me and that it didn't change the way I felt about her, but it took time to gain some understanding. Two things helped. I became more stable with my Bipolar disorder and didn't need to spend as much time online, plus we came to an agreement that I would limit my time and only exceed it if I was in a critical place. And the other thing (and probably most important) was that we had a long talk about what I was getting from my support groups. My wife is an incredibly understanding woman, and tolerant beyond the human imagination. But she has never experienced depression. There are times when I try to explain to her what I'm feeling, and although I know she's trying with all her being to understand, she simply doesn't. But I can come here and talk to all of you, and I know that someone out there will be able to relate to what I'm feeling and will understand me. Often times that's all I need to get thru a crisis, just some understanding. When I explained that to her, it made her feel much better, she wasn't at all offended, and now she actually encourages me to go online when I'm troubled and she knows she can't help. Education is a very powerful tool...

I'm sorry that this happened and I can understand your frustration. Hopefully you can assure him when he settles down that he has nothing to worry about. In the mean time, If you want to cyber scream at me, have at it girl!!!

I'll hug you anyway (((((Heidu)))))

bp

"A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart."