I think it would be a good idea to ask... if you can pinpoint a specific reason as to why she is reluctant to go back then you can work on it or keep it in mind when looking for someone new.

ECT has been recommended to me too, not by therapist or doctor but as a recommendation from my insurance company! That put the bejeezus out of me. Neither doc nor therapist thought it was time to be considering that... but the insurance company wanted quick results.

At the same time neither doc nor therapist poo-pooed the idea for something in the future. At the time this came up for me I was still on my first medication and just beginning intensive therapy so it wasn't time to consider such alternatives. I haven't thought about whether I would do that if the time came but I do know that lots of experts and patients agree that it can help. It is not like it used to be... people think of horror shows from the past, it is much more controlled now. Honestly the only thing that I worry about with regard to it is there is a possiblity of some memory loss. For most people the loss is temporary. The idea that it might not be scares me. I have a way to go before looking into this yet.

My point is that at sometime you may want to consider ECT as an option, and by "consider" I don't mean "do it" but just to do some research on it and see if she thinks it might help. But the thing to keep in mind is that no one is going to FORCE her to do it. Even if a doc recommends it she always has the final choice. Unless the doc gets persistant about it and refuses other treatment because he thinks it is "the only way to go" it is not necessarly bad for him to recommend it. If it ever gets to that point where he becomes insistant you and she can consider if he may be right or take the time to find another doc. In any case it would be wise at that point to seek a second opinion anyway just as you would if a doctor recommended surgery or something.

That's all in the future though, right now deal with her fear and see if you can find out if that is indeed what is going on.

Good luck.

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