((((((((((Granite)))))))))

I have a couple of thoughts.
1) I also agree with the others that this might have to do with the military issue. Is there any paperwork that you were given that you could take into her and show her? I know for me at least providing information from another source can be validating when I don't feel like I'm being heard.

2) In response to your fears that you are going to destroy the relationship and make her mad at you. One of the things I am working on in therapy right now is knowing that people don't change from one instance to another. I am sure that is what happened with your mom. It happened with mine too. I could never predict when things were going to go wrong. So I tried to control everything. But with normal people, they don't change from one instance to another. Your T has previously been able to deal with your anger and upset. And she has not lashed out at you. She will be able to deal with it this time without lashing out at you. She will be consistent in a way that your mother was not. I know this is really hard to believe. I find it really challenging to believe that doing any little thing wrong wont make people mad at me and destroy the relationship. But your T is NOT your mom.

I hope that you feel better soon.