Thanks everyone for your input. I'm still kind of unsure about the whole situation. This is a guy who has lied, but who also moved 1,000 miles away from his friends, family, and life to be with me and has shown his commitment to me in many ways. It's like he's the perfect man, and a reprehensible asshole at the same time.

I think really it boils down to the fact that it is impossible for me to let go of him. I am an extremely logical person but never in my life have I felt so helpless as to making a decision.

I am wondering if he has a problem being open about himself and is scared of rejection and maybe that is why he lied about his fetish and relationship with his ex. Or is that just another excuse my brain is making up to stay with him?