PH's comments are great! Thanks, PreacherHeckler; you're helping me too when you post about transference. I'm fortunate that my T makes me feel safe and comfortable to discuss all of my feelings for her as much as I need to. She's not afraid of transference and I think she knows how to deal with it in a gentle but not "fanning the flames" way.

Squiggle, it's hard to believe that your T hasn't dealt with transference with any other client, but if that's true, I understand why you're hesitant to bring it up again. But you said she's been understanding and I can see that, from everything you've posted about her. I think it's worth it to take the risk if you can because it's bothering you so much. Therapy is to help us with what bothers us, not matter what, and our feelings for our T are an important part of it. I wish you peace of mind with these feelings, as I myself am kind of in the midst of them too right now.