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Originally Posted by LolaCabanna
I guess the question becomes would I benefit from a proper termination session, as this is where I see this headed. Is it beneficial? Experiences?
Then there is the part of me who wants T to see that xT was crazy! What better way then to see what she wrote and hear her side, compare to the test. It wasn't all me, she's labeling me as difficult and that is BS! ... Residual anger , followed my nervous laughter.  |
I had a session w/ my exT 10 mos later and it was good because I was able to go in from a place of newly found strength and though she didn't say what I wanted to hear, it made me feel good about myself to say what I had to and have that be enough. I even felt more mature than her! Mine was a little bit of a different situation as we ended because I moved and did have a termination session, but our relationship was not great, which I only fully allowed myself to realize about 6 months after we ended. Too, my new T talked to exT about 7 mos later (exT emailed me something that was like a slap in the face and so newT offered to talk to her - long story). Their interaction confirmed to newT about exT being wrong in her interactions with me, etc. That part did indeed feel good
In your case, is time of the essence? Processing a termination/T relationship takes time so I'm not sure that you have to make any decisions ASAP. Most important is to focus on forming a relationship w/ newT and having him form his own opinions.