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Originally Posted by Adisdum
My problem is (I think) pretty simple .
I have a HUGE self-esteem issue, and I try my best to take care of it . But I don't know how .
The only times when I feel in control and ready to speak my mind, and when I don't care about what other people think, is when I'm angry .
Anger brings out a ruthless side of me that stops at nothing .. Then, I leave no room for "No" .
I just wish I could be that at all times, like find a trigger or something .. Because I'm really tired of being shy, losing my words at every confrontation (even when I'm right or innocent), hesitating, panicking when I'm the center of attention, and even being unable to defend myself physically/verbally and fight for what I really care about .
Any tips or suggestions ? It's killing me ..
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More an observation, really; I noticed that you used the words "confrontation"; "defend myself" and "fight." Are you really shy or just living in a hostile war zone? I refuse to fight with people and walk away when I sense that is what the person is looking for; I avoid needless confrontation when another method of problem resolution will work. There are practical ways of becoming a better public speaker: taking a speech class or a drama class, participating in Toastmasters, reading about how to improve your self-esteem, reading about how to make friends and influence people. While knowing how to defend oneself and helpless others is a valuable tool, knowing how to get along peacefully with others is an even more valuable tool, and I would encourage you to make efforts in a peaceful direction.
