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Old Mar 14, 2012, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by lost in termination View Post
I haven't run. I have always returned
Think of the past and what has happened -- you have left. . .and then returned. Why would this situation not play out like that?

Being disappointed that you ask for something and did not get it and then terminating (how I see it) looks a little like trying to "punish" your therapist for not going above and beyond and being something he may not wish to be. Therapy is about you, not him; you are the one trying to change the way you live your life? We try to push the therapist and they don't budge and we declare a "rupture" and ourselves hurt by the therapist. The therapist is not an "object" we move around on our own personal therapy boards?

Our emotions are always ours, not the other person's, not caused by the other person either, but by our own thoughts, memories, and experiences from inside us.

You have always returned. Has your therapist been there when you did? Has he ever left?
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