To cut a long story short, I'm in a long distance relationship, both boyfriend and I have health problems and have visited eachother twice in 8 months. We skype everyday but over time I've felt we don't have as much in common as I'd have liked and to be honest I need more than occasional visits. I crave companionship and fear I will still be waiting around for this guy in several years without really getting much from the relationship. I like him but I don't feel there's enough to warrent keeping this going. I want to put my doubts across to him and suggest we just leave this open for now as there are too many difficulties to make it work. Perhaps if we were seeing eachother more often we could build a foundation but that doesn't seem possible.

My problem is how and when to tell him. People around me have suggested telling him in person when he next visits. I have to admit I'd feel more respectful telling him in person. But the problem is I don't know when he'll next be able to visit although he hopes it will be this month. This option will mean carrying on as things are with our chats and not mentioning it. Otherwise I could tell him via skype, on the phone or write him a letter or email. I'm not sure about the last option. I'm naturally unconfident and fear I won't be able to get myself across properly.

I suppose I'm also concerned that I'm rushing into ending this when we've seen each other so rarely. I stayed for three days in January and it was nice to be with him although just being away from my home and responsibilites might've contribted to the good feeling.

I have health limitations and so does he, so it won't be easy for me to find a boyfriend, although I obviously don't want to use that escuse to stay with him.

I have a child and house where I live whereas he lives with his mother and has family nearby. Due to health and other factors it's simply not possible to spend long periods of time together at the moment.

I know it can only be my decision but I really don't know whether to stay with him, give it longer, or tell him my doubts and end it. I don't want to throw away something potentially good but at the same time I don't want to be waiting for a long time for something that won't work.

Any thoughts?