I hope you will stay here, and this is why:

I had the same reaction as you months ago, when people here told me I'd be wise to acquire more of a "fake it" coping skill than I was even willing to consider. I was at my core philosophically opposed. I even thought it was psychologically unhealthy.

One of our members, Venus Halley, explained--in more detail but along the lines as these have here--that people in general (and nowhere more than in the workplace) will use every scrap they can gather against you eventually.

Time passed, and all they tried to tell me proved true. I saw it not only in my life but in that of other around me.

What these people said to you was harsh. These members are not people who treat others harshly. They are among the most caring folks here. If we may try to tuffen you up too fast, just say whoa! But don't leave ... Please.

Also, we will alway listen to you. You never have to do everything everyone says, in order to have people here who will listen to you. Thats not how it works.

Roadie