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Originally Posted by Leed
My granddaughter (who lives with me) is 16, and her father is the same way. He has hurt her for years, by not coming when he said he would, by not calling when he said he would, by forgetting birthdays, Christmas, etc. SHE always instigated the contact -- until the last year or so when she said she'd had ENOUGH. So she quit calling, stopped contacting completely.
You should not be afraid to tell him how you feel. What is he going to do? Beat you? I doubt it. You should be allowed to express your feelings regardless of 'who' he is! He's hurt you -- why can't you tell him? He hasn't been very concerned about your feelings before -- you should let him know that! I agree with your Mom -- he NEEDS to take responsibility for what he's done to you! Why should he walk away scott-free? And this way, I doubt you'll feel so depressed again because you let it be KNOWN how you feel instead of keeping it inside to fester. Once you let it out, you'll feel MUCH better.  Believe me, I've done it and it does work.
Don't be afraid. You have rights too. You have the right to speak your feelings. There is nothing wrong with that. Don't back down, ok? We'll be right there with you, don't forget that ok? God bless & let us know how it went, will you? Love, Lee
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I know I shouldn't be afraid of telling my dad how I feel, but I am. And I don't know why??? Your right, it's not like his going to beat me or anything. So I shouldn't be worried or scared about anything! Ugh, I hate this! Why cant I just tell people how I feel instead of being scared all the time. Maybe I'm worried that I might hurt his feelings or make him mad. But why should I care? He never cared about me or my feelings. My mom said the same thing, ''Don't let him walk away scot-free''. I just need to find the courage to tell him that I don't appreciate the way he's been treating me. Hopefully, I'll find it...
I will try my hardest to not back down. I have to tell him how I feel because I need to get all these feelings off my chest. Thank you, Lee. That's why I'm so glad and thankful that I have you guys at PC. You guys are always there for me. God bless you too and yes, I will let you guys know how it went.
