I was wondering how those who are married or in a relationship found their signifigant other? Did the depression set in after the relationship? For me, I am on cloud nine thinkng this is going to be the one. After a few months I get bored and try to distance myself from her unconciously. My therapist thinks it is because of a personality disorder called Schizoid Personality Disorder. Here are the symptoms and I have most if not all.

neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family
almost always chooses solitary activities
has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person
takes pleasure in few, if any, activities
lacks close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives
appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of others
shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affectivity

So when these kick in I am torn between staying and trying to be happy, or satisfying these Schizoid needs and bolting. My brain gets confused and I get depressed, I try to straighten it out and I get depressed more. Its the situation I am in now, only I really really want to keep this one, but I dont think she wants to deal with my problems. That creates more depression. I am hoping that the therapist can erradicat the Schizoid traits so I can enjoy a happy long relationship. Any sngle women out there want to go crazy together?? Just kidding